What if I told you that your visualization efforts are actually STOPPING you manifesting what you want?

Today we're going to get curious about the effectiveness of visualization as a success strategy.

The power and the potential dangers of visualization

Let’s start with looking at some examples.

JK Rowling. It’s said that she had the idea for Harry Potter in 1990,  started writing it on a napkin on a train from Manchester and Edinburgh. She was a single parent, suffering with depression after losing her mother. She started after she “heard”….”A young boy who is a wizard but doesn’t know he’s a wizard and goes to wizard school”.

That's how Harry Potter was born and over 5 years so penned the format for the seven books. She was turned down by 12 publishers (who must now be kicking themselves).. her last book was the fastest selling book in history!

She now has her own digital publishing company, global blockbuster movies a...

Are we all addicts?

Are we unconsciously desperately, but ever so silently doing everything we can not to listen to our inner voices and avoiding all of those circumstances that would force us to sit in and sit with our feelings?

A Month Off Social Media

Recently, I took a month completely away from all of my social media channels. And initially just the intention was just to, to not be present on any social media, but actually within the first couple of days, I realized that I didn't want any kind of input whatsoever. I didn't want to read, listen or watch anything. It was as if my senses were suffering from this kind of information and social exhaustion and overload.

And I found myself, which really scared me, apathetic about ambition and expectations I'd always had. And I knew that this wasn't really me. I knew that something had to change and it has to be something different than I'd ever done before.

That's what led me to making that decision to completely step back and spend a...

If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. And if you are at peace, you're living in the present - Lao Tzu

As I step back in to “the world” after my month off social media, I’m more acutely aware of what triggers anxiety for me. My hope is that something here will help you manage your anxiety, overwhelm and emotional burnout.

So let's just open up that dialogue shall we? The firs thing I noticed, as I wrote out notes for this episode, is that I initally wrote “my anxiety” and I realized that implied it belonged to me. Was part of me. w I started off with the statement around if your depression living in the past. And the first thing that I noticed as I wrote these notes for this session today was that I wrote what triggers my anxiety.

What triggers my anxiety and what triggers anxiety just losing the ME has allowed me to divorce myself from any relationship with anxiety and simply to see it as an...

Almost all struggling online business owners and budding entrepreneurs believe that their business is not successful yet because they're missing that one magic strategy.

But for most of you, that's NOT TRUE! 

Strategy or Identity?

The common belief is that if you get all the right strategies and systems in place, your business will succeed.

So let me ask you this.

How many courses and freebies have you bought and downloaded and then completed and implemented and tracked. And by that, I mean done the work, tracked the results, made adjustments and tried again?

Did you know that only about 9% of people who buy a course complete it? Are you in that 9%?

Have you ever heard of stories where people are brand new to online business, don’t, really don't have a clue but they launch anyway – with phenomenal results? I have.

On the flip side, do you know anyone who has spent thousands on coaches and implementation strategies are still not making money. I have.

Here’s a...

Are we in a world where the exponential growth of the industry that claims to help us is the very thing that's leading to our emotional burnout, our disconnection from our happiness and our values?

Is self-help really helping or is it causing bigger problem?

As a business owner, you've probably heard that the success of your business is going to be directly correlated to your level of personal growth?

And I've been thinking a lot about whether this is actually creating a society where we never feel ENOUGH. We "should" be doing, achieving, growing, learning MORE.

Not only did I find myself almost at burnout in March of this year, but I'm seeing a dramatic rise in the number of  burnout, exhausted, anxious, business owners and entrepreneurs. What's even more worrying is that they believe that need to DO something to get themselves out of it!

What course can I buy? What book should I read?

And my question is, why are we not promoting less?

Why are we not promoting rest while...

Have you ever held yourself back, backed down or procrastinated because of self doubt?

Self-doubt is the symptom. If self doubt were the problem, you would doubt everything. Do you doubt your ability to go to the bathroom? To cook a piece of toast or tie your shoelaces? I doubt it.

So what is the problem?

Think about some of the areas where you do doubt yourself and your abilities and I bet you can notice the following.

1. Uncertainty in the outcome

2. Anticipated weight of other peoples opinions and judgements

3. Perceived emotional discomfort/pain

Here's an example.  If you were working out at home, you probably wouldn't be that worried about the muffin top or the sweat patches in embarrassing places or how you looked when you were doing that exercise. But if I placed you in a posh gym, I bet all of those things would become a problem for you.

Fundamentally, see self doubt is the symptom of two things

Number one - the basic human need for survival, safety and security

Number...

If you’re struggling with your messaging, start with who YOU are and not what you do or who you serve.

As a business owner, your messaging is the ticket to your financial freedom or financial failure. But if you’re messaging simply isn’t “landing” and it’s reflecting in your income, then another course isn’t what you need.

Been There, Done That

Believe me, I get it. I bought two courses from a leading influencer to help me build my business and write amazing copy. But I finished neither because I didn’t believe in ME. And if you don’t truly believe in YOU, you will sabotage any and all attempts to be successful.

If you don't know who you really are and what you really stand for, and don't belief in your ability to succeed, your message will always be cloudy. It will always be filtered through your limiting beliefs. he ability and the I'm going to say entitlement to make great money and have a life that is wealthy and healthy and...

It's easier to decrease resistance than it is to increase alignment.

Law of attraction and manifestation techniques teach us to focus on the things that we want align with in the future vision but that actually increases resistance because it activates our limiting beliefs.

Start With Reducing Resistance

It might sound weird and I get. If you REALLY want something, why would you have resistance around it? Well that’s the power of your subconscious programming.

So, if you know that focusing on the thing, activates and agitates our limiting beliefs increasing the resistance that we have to make that thing a reality, doesn't it make more sense to focus on removing the barriers rather than executing and using that excessive energy attempting to navigate around them?

Why Feel Crappy?

If you continue to focus on what you want but keep “not getting it”, not only do you feel crappy but it’s a total waste of your time and energy.

Doesn’t it feel better to give...

Perfectionism is just a fear strategy

Trying to perfect your process before you put something out there in your business is the worst possible strategy that you can use to make progress. Just imagine for a moment that a baby refused to walk before it could do so without falling down, the baby would never walk.

Your business is a living, breathing extension and expression of who you are. And as entrepreneurship is probably the steepest personal development learning curve that you could ever choose, isn't it fair to say then that your business is in constant evolution?

Stop Stunting Your Growth

If you spend so much time and effort trying to nail this one and only iteration, is that not like never allowing your children to get past infant school level; letting a wine age or a cheese mature? (and you know how much of a tragedy I think that would be!)

Doesn’t it make more sense to take action so you can evolve? To be courageous enough to speak from where we are at and expect things...

You don't need to remove your fears. You just need to see beyond them.

Believing that you need to have confidence before you can courageously act is like trying to move the cart without the horse.

Courage is the mother of confidence.

Courage will always proceed competence. When we commit to seeing beyond our fears and envisioning a brighter future and we take consistent act of courage then Confidence is the prize.

So if you're holding yourself back in business, because of fear the first thing you need to do is confirm to master your fears.

Here’s What You Need to Know

Most fear you have is purely to avoid emotional discomfort. It's a disguise for us not feeling a certain emotion. So imagine that you've got a fear of video and I ask you “what will live video actually do to you?” It's not going to physically harm you, is it? So how can you fear live video?

And you really probably can't answer that. So what is the real fear? You're actually trying to avoid a feeling....